What is guilt and how do you balance its energy?

Nov 24, 2021 | Mental health | 2 comments


This post defines guilt, its purpose, and how to balance its energy. Upon gaining this knowledge, the effects of your past mistakes fade and you make a fresh start toward balanced living. This way of life allows you to handle challenges with ease. The mind then becomes wise, balanced, and peaceful.


When you allow guilt to release, it leaves your space.

Once guilt leaves your space, the mind becomes balanced, wise, and peaceful.


What is guilt?


Guilt is a sense of regret that occurs upon realising you have acted against your morals. In a state of balance, it helps you recognise and learn from mistakes. As a result, you grow toward being wiser and more aware. With this clear understanding of guilt, it’s possible to allow and accept it in your space.

If guilt becomes excessive, it turns into a means of self-punishment. In this state, when past misdeeds come to your attention, you become angry with yourself. This response is common if you have caused hurt to others. In most cases, because your sensitive, light natured side doesn’t wish to create harm. Such a battle between this mindset and the dark nature of anger makes you feel at war with the mind’s emotions. This inner conflict comes from not accepting thoughts and trying to fight or suppress them. Upon noticing this cycle, past mistakes lose their hold and guilt no longer becomes a means of self-punishment.

The mind feels guilty because of the material it gathers from your genes, surroundings, upbringing, and environment. These shape your standards of what’s right and wrong. For example, if you witness too many cases of people punishing themselves with guilt, your mind takes this on board. From here, it’s easy to assume that self-blame is the ‘right’ action. This outlook becomes stronger if others blame you for their misdeeds or problems in life. These events, along with the material the mind gathers, cause it to feel guilty.

On balance, guilt is a sensation that stems from the thoughts your brain collects. By fighting or suppressing its presence, it gains power. Once you grow wise to this, guilt becomes less intense. It’s then easier to accept and allow it in your space.


As you become wise to guilt,

As you become wise to guilt, it’s possible to accept and allow it in your space.


What is the purpose of guilt?


The purpose of guilt is to raise awareness of areas in your life that require learning and growth. It also helps you take responsibility for your actions and thoughts. By knowing this, you stop focusing on the sensations of guilt and instead allow it to release. In effect, this moves you toward a fresh, balanced start in life.

Mistakes are part of life, and vital for it to express, learn, grow, and balance. Given this point, faults and setbacks must take place. These ensure that life continues to change, develop, and express itself. Humans are part of this energy and mature in the same manner. To explain this, take the case of your childhood. At this stage, you make many mistakes as learning occurs from experience. As the brain grows toward adulthood, it becomes more aware and less likely to carry out the same errors. This truth helps you view mistakes as doorways to realising life’s journey of growth and balance.

The act of holding onto guilt, shame and anger toward past misdeeds seems noble at first. Despite this virtuous front, these mindsets stem from self-blame and resentment. When you cling to such painful thoughts, they attract and create more suffering. This grief toward past mistakes goes against the flow of life and restricts its movement. In response, the body becomes heavy, depressed and ill. These conditions create discomfort, which prompts you to be more aware. It’s then possible to allow guilt and its related emotions so they can release. Here, you let go of anger toward past misdeeds and accept them without judgement.

With all things considered, having an awareness of guilt is enough to begin the course toward releasing it. This open state leads you toward a fresh start in life that’s free of past baggage.


The journey of becoming aware of guilt leads you to a fresh start that's free of past baggage.

The journey of becoming aware of guilt leads you to a fresh start that’s free of past baggage.


How do you take responsibility for past actions?


You take responsibility for past deeds, accidents or mistakes by accepting and learning from them. This embrace means being honest by not denying your wrongs or blaming yourself and others. By acting in this wise state, life becomes your teacher and guide. It’s then possible to take responsibility for your thoughts, past conduct, and mistakes with wisdom.

Imbalanced thoughts drive the actions of those with a low state of awareness. On this account, such people don’t have the space to witness their minds and allow insights into wise choices. As a result, they live in a robotic fashion and are slaves to their emotions. Is the mind who you are? Do its thoughts dictate your life? At some point, the acts you commit from a state of low awareness cause more mistakes and accidents. In effect, they create anger, shame, and guilt. These emotions help you note the mind’s contents and their influence. When awareness grows this way, imbalanced thoughts cannot drive your actions.

Realise how a state of low awareness led you to commit past misdeeds. These events and their effects act as wake-up calls to inspire change. As this growth takes place, you become a wiser, different person who makes conscious choices. Understand that your past self helped guide you to this point by raising the mind’s awareness. In short, this insight helps you embrace past misdeeds and diffuse guilt.

Accept that feeling low about past errors and punishing yourself over them makes no sense. This truth helps you accept that life brings forth the right events that raise your consciousness. Mistakes are part of this motion. With this intention, past pain, faults, guilt and shame act as guides. Altogether, they lead you toward taking responsibility as a wise, conscious human being.


Emotions such as guilt and shame act as guides.

Emotions such as guilt and shame act as guides toward becoming a wise, conscious person.


Is there a difference between holding onto guilt and allowing it?


There is a difference between holding onto guilt and allowing its freedom. In brief, you hold/dwell on guilt by using thoughts of regret and remorse to punish yourself. Here, you also try to remove painful memories by delving into them. In contrast, allowing means to let guilty thoughts arise, express, teach, then leave without effort. Once you’re clear on this, you don’t confuse the acts of clinging to guilt and allowing it.

The emotion of guilt can feel heavy and painful. Because of this, you often fear allowing its freedom. Instead, you try to avoid its pain. This measure stops the energy of guilt from releasing. To explain this, imagine a boiling kettle with the spout blocked. Here, the heat cannot escape. As a result, the pressure inside the kettle increases, which soon forces the lid open. In the same fashion, if you suppress guilt, its pressure builds until the strain becomes unbearable. Such pain forces you to relax your efforts and let the mind release its tension. While doing this, emotions such as guilt arise, then become lighter and less painful in time.

At first glance, dwelling on your past or childhood appears to help make sense of present suffering. Despite this view, such methods can make guilt fiercer because the mind finds more material to increase its pain. In short, by dwelling on the past, you often relive it in the present. Instead of this approach, witness guilt and the thoughts it creates. By doing this, its motion cannot occupy your entire inner space. In time, you can allow guilt to fade while learning the lessons it conceals. This wisdom arises in your life when you need it – without effort. From this point, you no longer cling or dwell on past guilt, thus allowing it to clear.


When you relax your efforts against guilt, it releases and becomes less painful in time.


Does an apology help to remove your guilt?


In a state of balance, an apology can help heal the effects of past mistakes. However, this act must stem from a mindset of clarity and poise. If you apologise from a guilty stance, this emotion often becomes heavier. The reason is that you’re engaging with it, thus fuelling its place in the mind. By learning this, realise you must first grow aware of guilt, then let its energy clear. From here, you can decide if an apology is the correct course of action. This approach opens your mind to life’s wisdom, which heals the effects of past mistakes.

Your mindset behind an action often shapes its effects. To explain this, take the idea of seeking forgiveness from others to remove the burden of past errors. This notion stems from an urge to silence the mind’s pain. Here, you seek approval from others to leave your past behind. Move from this state of guilt, and you invite events, responses, and people that mirror it. For this reason, don’t seek forgiveness from others until your guilt is clear. Once the mind is free of such a burden, it no longer shapes your choices or their effects.

By allowing guilt to dissolve, you help solve human conflict in the world by correcting yourself. With this intent, if cases of past misdeeds arise, you can decide to make amends with a balanced outlook. This plan involves reviewing the patterns of thought that led to unwise actions. You can then choose to settle past issues and apologise – if these actions are wise in the situation. This journey helps you grow into a more balanced, conscious person. It also inspires others to heed and settle their own conflicts. As this wisdom spreads, guilt and its effects dissolve as more humans open to life’s wisdom.


By allowing your guilt to dissolve, you heal yourself and others.

By allowing your guilt to dissolve, you heal yourself and others.


How do you let go of guilt?


You let go of guilt by putting aside all techniques and efforts against it. In this aware state, allow guilty thoughts full freedom so they can wither away in their own time. By understanding this, you gain inner strength and space. Soon, these qualities become steady and permanent.

No matter what mistakes or harm you have committed – it’s never too late to mend the mindset behind your errors. By correcting yourself and allowing guilt to clear, you create a ripple effect that inspires further balance in the world. As you become more aware, images of past errors come to your attention. You may have suppressed them many years ago, and it feels odd that they are surfacing now. Understand that these thoughts are coming up to release, as you’re not holding them back. In essence, they are invitations to relax and let go. Follow this lead, and life’s intelligence clears the stain of your past errors.

The state of allowing doesn’t mean living with guilt or pain. In contrast, it means letting these thoughts be without trying to reason with or remove them. Sometimes you’re only ready for this stage after trying every method to resolve guilt without success. When you’re tired of fighting these thoughts, grant their freedom by putting aside your efforts. After a few months, their power reduces, thus making you receptive to solutions and reasoning. Apply this wisdom and you no longer have to live with pain or guilt.

As you allow your mind to be, it expels the baggage it has gained over years. At first, this course is challenging but soon eases as the excess fuel of emotions dissolves. In this open, relaxed state, wisdom and peace come forth. In time, these traits become steady, permanent parts of your life.






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  1. John Shearer

    Acceptance is always a great starting point. Great post Subraj! 🙏

    • subraj

      Thankyou very much John. Accepting all emotions – including guilt is the first step toward balance and healing.


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