This post sums up the dynamics of total allowing and how it works to balance your mind. With this understanding, you learn to release pain and imbalance from your space. There is also an explanation of triggers, their purpose and how they help the process of release. The result is a balanced mind and natural calm that flows into your life.
What does ‘total allowing’ mean?
The phrase ‘total allowing’ means that you’re open to letting thoughts be – without trying to contain them. Here you allow the mind to think, be silent, or move if it wishes. You’re also open to any emotions and their activity. These pointers help you realise that total allowing means being free from any method of managing thoughts. When you leave the mind this way, it expels its unwanted contents and balances itself.
The first step toward balance is to grow aware of your mind. This practice develops a stable base where the brain’s momentum cannot carry you away. To find out if you’re ready to ‘allow’, note the mind’s thoughts. Watch how your body reacts when these arise. Can you sense its thoughts and reactions? If so, it’s time to drop mindful practices. From here, you let your mind think and feel as it wishes. This stage builds on the base of mindfulness and balances your life. In short, learn to become aware first, then move into total allowing.
Each form of life energy moves towards balance – no matter how imbalanced or disturbed it is. This truth applies to both thoughts and emotions. To illustrate this, picture a still lake. Now imagine agitating the water by throwing stones onto its surface. What happens when you stop disturbing the lake this way? It becomes still by itself. Here, the lake is your mind in its natural, calm state. The act of throwing stones represents how you fuel thoughts by provoking them. Instead of engaging with your mind, let it be. Once the excess momentum of thoughts settles, you can re-engage with the mind in a balanced manner.
On balance, by allowing the brain’s momentum, its imbalances exhaust. As a result, the mind balances itself and its contents don’t trouble you.
What are emotional triggers, and how do you deal with them?
Emotional triggers are anything that causes a surge of feelings, thoughts, and emotions in your space. They serve to bring the mind’s suppressed contents to the surface of your attention. Once you understand how this takes place, you’re no longer afraid of anything that triggers specific thoughts. Such fearlessness transforms each of your emotions. Here, mental pain leaves the mind and body.
The biggest test as you enter a state of allowing is when painful emotions arise. It’s common to suppress this content, rather than face, feel and allow it to pass. You cannot avoid the mind this way for long periods. At some point, emotions gain so much mass and become impossible to ignore. This is life’s wisdom urging you to stop trying to subdue your mind. Life events, or something you see and hear, can trigger a landslide of feelings hiding dormant in your space. Instead of avoiding or suppressing this surge of emotions, allow them in full. You then face and move through emotional pain so it can transform or pass.
If you feel aware and stable enough after a month of awareness practices, you can bring forth negative thoughts on purpose. For example, you picture a past or future image that triggers certain emotions. Methods like this cause a further release of feelings. Do this daily for ten to fifteen minutes over several weeks, if you wish. When emotions emerge during this practice, let them run their course and pass.
As you grant the mind its freedom, triggers arise more often. View these as chances to release more of your mind’s suppressed content. Here, life moves you through what’s needed to unearth such emotions. Once the mind releases most of this matter, it faces fewer triggers. In effect, you become free of mental pain.
Why do unpleasant thoughts keep returning?
Unpleasant thoughts keep returning because you have not let them resolve. Instead, when they arise, you either focus on something else, try to answer, or block them out. These methods take up the mind’s space and bury its contents deeper. Note these actions. Realise how thoughts arrive and leave themselves when they’re left alone. Upon doing this, unpleasant mind content resolves in its own time.
It’s not possible to silence the mind using effort for long periods. The reason is that your brain is always active and generates material – often at random. To visualise this, picture the heart beating. It beats many times per minute. In a similar fashion, the brain thinks hundreds of thoughts each moment – often without conscious control. Let this motion happen with no effort to stop it. By viewing the brain’s movement this way, you realise that it’s innocent and impersonal. From here, let yourself experience thoughts, emotions, and fears. Soon, this discomfort passes, the mind’s past momentum fades, and you connect with true silence.
The mind often wonders if it’s doing something wrong when unwanted content keeps returning. Is it suppressing thoughts? Don’t worry about this. Be OK with not knowing.
In a state of allowing, you won’t feel that you’re running away from thoughts. In contrast, the mind gains a sense of fearlessness. Here, its repetitive patterns become easy to see and you no longer lose yourself in them. Do you sense that you’re running away from the mind’s thoughts? Are you stopping yourself from facing unpleasant feelings in full? If so, you’re afraid of allowing them within the mind’s space. Once you note this worry, allow yourself to go through its unpleasantness. In time, its strength lessens. You then move into the phase of release, accept the mind’s thoughts and resolve their imbalances.
How does the phase of release work?
The phase of release works by expelling your mind’s unwanted contents and allowing them to resolve. Learn how this stage unfolds and you find it easier to go through its various cycles with less worry. Once this phase ends, the mind frees itself from past baggage and pain.
To make sense of how the phase of release works, imagine a volcano erupting. This event happens when molten rock rises from below the earth’s surface. Gas bubbles or steam then cause an increase in pressure. If this stress becomes too high, the volcano erupts. Here, its contents such as gas, steam, ash and rock expel into the atmosphere. This example shows the volcano as your mind. The gas, steam, ash and rock are its thoughts and emotions. If they gain too much mass and pressure, they erupt as bouts of mental pain. In short, the phase of release is when your mind expels its surplus material, like a volcano erupting.
As the mind releases its unwanted contents, its hidden cycles and layers arise. This process continues until each shred of imbalance comes to the surface and leaves. To understand this, draw attention back to the volcano example. At the end of several eruptions, what happens when the expelled steam and gas meet the air? They soon disperse and cool. The volcano then stops erupting and calms by itself. In a similar way, your thoughts slow and the mind settles once it’s done releasing its excess contents. This course often takes place several times as each layer and cycle of imbalance release.
Don’t mistake this phase as a ‘feel-good’ practice. On occasion, you will experience periods of unrest. When these happen, accept them as part of the process rather than relapses. In time, this phase ends, and the mind becomes free.
Is there a practice that can help you understand the process?
There is a simple practice to help understand the phase of release. This exercise involves sitting in silence while letting the mind have its full freedom. An ideal time span for this method is 20 – 30 minutes every day for 1-2 months. If you’re unsure how to let go, this optional exercise provides insight and experience. In short, it helps you to relax and let life’s wisdom balance your body and mind.
If you choose to sit and allow your mind to be for a set period, meditate on the following questions:
- Does your mind wish to think or lose itself in thoughts? Can you allow this to happen?
- Are there any feelings of intense hatred, fear, or panic? What would happen if you allow their freedom?
- Do thoughts of regret, pain, disgust, or guilt arise? If so, can you sense and allow these to emerge?
- Does doubt or confusion occur in the mind’s thoughts? What happens if you let these and their related questions follow?
- Can you sense inspiration, insight, or positive thoughts arising? Is it possible to let them have their say?
- Will you let the mind release its means of protection against memories or past trauma?
- When repressed thoughts and emotions arise, do you try to distract yourself? Can you allow them instead?
It’s more accurate to refer to allowing the mind its freedom as a ‘non-practice’. Here, letting go becomes a state of undoing, rather than an action. When you sit still with your thoughts, there is a sense of what it means to be non-reactive toward them. By seeing how this process works, allowing becomes a part of everyday life. You then relax the mind’s grip and understand how life’s greater wisdom takes care of everything. After a short while, this intellect balances your body and mind.
Why does the brain find it hard to let go and allow?
The brain finds it hard to relax and allow because it opposes any feelings of discomfort. For this reason, it can seem absurd to let thoughts and emotions have a free run. You may assume that allowing negative thoughts will cause them to take over. These misconceptions clear once you learn how the mind changes by allowing it in full. In short, by letting the brain relax and have its freedom, unwanted thoughts lose their hold.
In a state of allowing, it’s fine to question what you’re doing. You will also wonder if letting go helps the mind or makes it worse. Allow these doubts without striving to answer them. While doing this, notice how overwhelming thoughts can be. Realise that as your awareness grows, it’s normal to lose yourself in thoughts. When this happens, don’t try distancing your mind from anything. Instead, let thoughts run their noise. In this state of allowing, the answers to your questions come in due time.
Don’t worry about allowing negative thoughts and emotions. In an aware state, they won’t take over your mind. If you feel down, allowing doesn’t mean giving in to this mindset and taking no action. In contrast, allowing means you’re aware of such feelings and review them before acting. By doing this, they don’t seize full power over you. If you need to act, there is space for wise insight. From here, the mind cannot blackmail you with its threats. In time, these pressures reduce and balance. This understanding allows you to accept negative thoughts and emotions without hesitating.
A slight awareness of a negative thought ensures you’re not lost in its energy. This alertness is enough to stop fueling your mind’s imbalances. As this awareness keeps growing, unwanted thoughts soon lose their hold on you.
Is there a correct way to allow your mind to be?
There is no correct or incorrect approach to allow your mind’s movements. By grasping this truth, you stop searching for methods to allow or let go. Don’t worry about trying to release thoughts the right way. Instead, accept you might do everything wrong in this area. In this open state, there are no rules over thoughts. When you realise this, the mind lets go without effort.
As you grant the mind its freedom, consider these questions:
- Do you strive to stay or be present?
- Are you pushing your mind to think or be positive?
- Do you follow the urge to make your emotions happy or sad?
- Are you always checking to see if you’re making progress toward balance?
- Do you use substances or drugs to curb thoughts?
If you answer ‘yes’ to these questions, you’re fighting against the mind. Such resistance stems from the desire to relieve mental or emotional pain. This drive locks you in the mind’s prison, thus preventing ‘allowing’ from taking place. Once you let go of such resistance, your mind raises the following doubts:
- Am I doing this right?
- I cannot let go.
- How do I speed this process up?
These thoughts are the mind’s tricks to grab your attention and keep you lost in its material. Don’t fall for such tactics. Instead, let them arise – without buying into them. By doing so, you no longer fight against allowing.
On balance, the mind isn’t going to ‘allow’ itself. Your job is to put its noise aside and let life reprogram it. Doubts arise as the mind objects to this approach. Once you let such defences pass, the process happens at its fastest pace. Soon, the mind lets go of its contents without effort.