This post sums up the dynamics of total allowing and how it works to balance your mind. With this understanding, you learn to release pain and imbalance from your space. There is also an explanation of triggers, their purpose and how they help the process of release. The result is a balanced mind and natural calm that flows into your life.
What does ‘total allowing’ mean?
The phrase ‘total allowing’ means that you’re open to letting your mind be – without trying to contain it. Here you allow your mind to think, be silent, or move if it wishes. You’re also open to any emotions and their activity. These pointers help you realise that total allowing means being free from any method to manage your thoughts. When you leave your mind this way, it expels its unwanted contents and balances itself.
The first step toward balance is to grow aware of your mind. Once you’re ready, you can put aside such practices. To find out if you’re ready to ‘allow’, note the thoughts that occur. Watch how your body reacts when these arise. Can you sense your thoughts and reactions? If so, it’s time to drop mindful practices. From here, you let your mind think and feel as it wishes. This stage builds on the base of mindfulness and balances your life. In short, learn to become aware first, then move into total allowing.
Each form of life energy moves towards balance – no matter how imbalanced or disturbed it is. This truth applies to your thoughts and emotions. To illustrate this, picture a still lake. Now imagine agitating the water by throwing stones onto its surface. What happens when you stop disturbing the lake this way? It becomes still by itself. Here, the lake is your mind in its natural, calm state. The act of throwing stones represents how you fuel your thoughts by fighting them. Instead of engaging with your mind, let it be. The brain’s fuel for imbalance then exhausts. As a result, its energy calms and your mind balances itself.
What are emotional triggers, and how do you deal with them?
Emotional triggers are anything that causes a surge of feelings, thoughts, and emotions in your space. They serve the purpose of bringing your mind’s suppressed contents to the surface of your being. Once you understand how this takes place, you’re no longer afraid of anything that triggers specific thoughts. As a result, life’s wisdom has the space to transform your emotions. Here, mental pain leaves your mind.
The biggest test as you enter a state of allowing is when painful emotions arise. It’s common to suppress this content, rather than face, feel and allow it to pass. You cannot avoid your mind this way for long. At some point, your emotions gain so much mass and become impossible to ignore. This is life’s wisdom urging you to stop trying to subdue your mind. Life events, or something you see and hear, can trigger a landslide of feelings that hide dormant in your space. Instead of avoiding or suppressing this surge of emotions, allow them in full. Here, you face and move through emotional pain so it can transform or pass.
If you feel aware and stable enough after a month of awareness practices, you can bring forth negative thoughts on purpose. For example, you picture a past or future image that triggers your emotions. You’re free to use methods like this a few times to cause a further release of feelings. After your emotions emerge during this practice, let them run their course.
As you grant your mind its freedom, you face triggers more often. View these as chances to release more of your mind’s suppressed content. Here, life moves you through what’s needed to unearth such emotions. Once your mind releases most of this matter, it faces fewer triggers. In effect, you become free of mental pain.
How does the phase of release work?
The phase of release works by expelling your mind’s unwanted contents and allowing them to resolve. Learn how this stage unfolds and you find it easier to go through its various cycles with less worry. Once it comes to a close, you sense relief, as your mind is free from the past.
To make sense of how the phase of release works, imagine a volcano erupting. This event happens when molten rock rises from below the earth’s surface. Gas bubbles or steam then cause an increase in pressure. If this stress becomes too high, the volcano erupts. Here, its contents such as gas, steam, ash and rock expel into the atmosphere. This example shows the volcano as your mind. The gas, steam, ash and rock are your thoughts. If they gain too much mass and pressure, they erupt as bouts of mental and physical pain. In short, the phase of release is when your mind expels its surplus material, like a volcano erupting.
As your mind releases its unwanted contents, its hidden cycles and layers arise. This process continues until each shred of imbalance comes to the surface and leaves. To understand this, draw your attention back to the volcano example. At the end of several eruptions, what happens when the expelled steam and gas meet the air? They soon disperse and cool. The volcano then stops erupting and calms. In a similar way, your thoughts slow and the mind settles once it’s done releasing its excess contents. This course often takes place several times as each layer and cycle of imbalance release.
Don’t mistake this phase as a ‘feel-good’ practice and accept the periods of unrest. When these happen, accept them as part of the process rather than relapses. In time, this phase ends and your mind becomes free.
Is there a practice that can help you understand the process?
There is a simple practice to help you understand the phase of release. This exercise involves sitting in silence while you let your mind have its full freedom. An ideal time span for this method is 20 – 30 minutes every day for 1-2 months. If you’re unsure how to let go, this optional exercise provides insight and experience. In short, it helps you to relax and let life’s wisdom balance your body and mind.
If you choose to sit and allow your mind to be for a set period, meditate on the following questions:
- Does your mind wish to think or lose itself in thoughts? Can you allow this to happen?
- Are there any feelings of intense hatred, fear, or panic? What would happen if you allow their freedom?
- Do thoughts of regret, pain, disgust, or guilt arise? If so, can you sense and allow these to emerge?
- Does doubt or confusion occur in your thoughts? What happens if you let these and their related questions follow?
- Can you sense inspiration, insight, or positive thoughts arising? Will you let them have their say?
- Is it possible to release all means of protection against memories or past trauma?
- When repressed thoughts and emotions arise, do you try to distract yourself? Can you view and feel them instead?
It’s more accurate to refer to allowing the mind its freedom as a ‘non-practice’. Here, letting go becomes a state of undoing, rather than an action. When you sit still with your thoughts, there is a sense of what it means to be non-reactive toward them. Once you see how the process works, allowing becomes a part of everyday life. You then relax the mind’s grip and understand that life’s greater wisdom takes care of you. After a short while, this balances your body and mind.
Why does the brain find it hard to let go and allow?
The brain finds it hard to relax and allow because it opposes any feelings of discomfort. For this reason, it can seem absurd to let thoughts and emotions have a free run. You may assume that allowing negative thoughts will cause them to take over. These misconceptions clear once you learn how your mind changes by allowing it in full. In short, your unwanted thoughts lose their hold.
In a state of allowing, it’s fine to question what you’re doing. You will also wonder if letting go does anything for your mind. Allow these doubts without striving to answer them. While you do this, notice how overwhelming your thoughts are. Realise that as your awareness grows, it’s normal to lose yourself in thoughts. When this happens, don’t try distancing yourself from anything. Instead, let the thought run its noise. In this state of allowing, the answers to your questions come in due time.
Don’t worry about allowing negative thoughts and emotions. In an aware state, they won’t take over your mind. If you feel down, allowing doesn’t mean you give in to this mindset and take no action. In contrast, it means you’re aware of such feelings and review them before acting. By doing this, they don’t seize full power over you. If you need to act, there is space for wise insight. From here, the mind cannot blackmail you with its threats. You can then let them pass and balance in time. This understanding allows you to accept negative thoughts and emotions without hesitating.
A slight awareness of a negative thought ensures you’re not lost in its energy. This alertness is enough to stop fueling your mind’s imbalances. As this awareness keeps growing, unwanted thoughts soon lose their hold on you.
Is there a correct way to allow your mind to be?
There is no correct or incorrect approach to allow your mind’s movement. When you grasp this truth, you realise that any attempts you make to let go of your mind prevent it from allowing. Don’t worry about trying to release thoughts the right way. Instead, accept you might do everything wrong in this area. In such an open state, there are no rules over your thoughts. Once you realise this, your mind lets go without effort.
As you grant your mind its freedom, consider these questions:
- Do you strive to stay or be present?
- Are you pushing your mind to think or be positive?
- Do you follow the urge to make your emotions happy or sad?
- Are you always checking to see if you’re making progress toward balance?
- Do you use substances or drugs to curb your thoughts?
If you answer ‘yes’ to these questions, you’re fighting against the mind. Such resistance stems from your desire to relieve mental or emotional pain. This drive locks you in the mind’s prison, thus preventing ‘allowing’ from taking place. Once you let go of such resistance, your mind raises the following doubts:
- Am I doing this right?
- I cannot let go.
- How do I speed this process up?
These thoughts are the mind’s tricks to grab your attention and keep you lost in its material. Don’t fall for such tactics. Instead, let them arise – without buying into them. By doing so, you no longer fight against allowing.
On balance, your mind isn’t the one who is going to ‘allow’ itself. Your job is to put its noise aside and let life reprogram it. Doubts will arise as your mind objects to this, but if you let these pass, the process happens at its fastest pace. Your mind then lets go without effort.