This post teaches you how to resolve fears by allowing them. By following this guide, you first learn to become aware of your troubles. This act creates space in the mind. In effect, its emotions cease to govern your actions or state of being. With this openness, imbalanced thoughts have their full expression and soon run out of fuel. It’s then possible to resolve fears using your own wisdom.
How do you face, manage and resolve fear?
You face, manage, and resolve fear by learning to witness the mind. By doing this, you’re able to allow its excess energy to release. Learn how this approach works, and the mind resolves its troubles with ease.
The course of dissolving a fear begins once you become aware of it. You then allow its intensity to reduce. This action creates space where solutions to worries arise. When starting this journey, you may struggle with mental images that cause dread and anxiety. In effect, your behaviour revolves around avoiding, coping or acting out the fear. At first, this appears to bring relief, but soon, the feelings of dread reappear. This happens because you have not yet faced and dissolved your mind’s troubles. To confront and diffuse such fears, you move through the following steps.
- Grow aware of the fear.
- Understand it.
- Allow, face and feel fear.
- Accept its presence and become open to solutions.
- Apply insights and reasoning.
- Allow the mind to balance as fear dissolves.
Before starting this course, spend 1-2 months on any mindful practice to activate your awareness. This base allows you to explore and understand fear without its momentum taking over.
Once you’re aware of troubling thoughts and emotions, it’s time to relax and allow the mind its full freedom. This openness leads you to face fear, accept its presence, become open to solutions and apply insights. Each of these steps are natural outcomes of allowing. This process doesn’t always occur in order and isn’t a rigid technique. For example, you may receive insights or have to face fear at different times. Despite this, if you stay open, the mind develops trust in life. This faith releases fear from your space. As a result, the mind is free to balance and resolve its troubles.
How do you grow aware of fear?
You grow aware of fear by becoming alert to its presence. To practice this, when you feel afraid, note its sensation in the body and witness the thoughts it creates. This step takes attention out of the mind and helps you become wise to its tricks.
Understand fear as a blend of feelings and thoughts in the mind’s space. It doesn’t define your entire being. To show how to reduce this emotion using awareness, consider the fear of catching a fatal, contagious illness. Here, the mind repeats thoughts such as.
- I may catch a fatal illness.
- What if I get ill and die?
- I might pass an illness onto someone I care about. If they get ill or die – it’s my fault.
Thoughts of this nature create and unearth fear within you. It’s important to witness them and note their repetitive nature so they don’t rule your actions. Can you sense a desire to get rid of these thoughts? This instinct is part of the brain’s drive to protect you. It will arise whenever something unpleasant comes to your attention. Be aware of this urge to fight, ignore, or distract yourself from fear – don’t try to stop it. Soon, you become alert to how the mind creates and unearths fearful thoughts.
The body responds to your mind’s content. To show this, take the case of being anxious about getting ill. Here, your body reacts as if the fear is real. For example, if headaches are a symptom of an illness that scares you, your head responds with similar pain. This cycle of verifying and holding onto fear makes anxiety stronger. In this unconscious state, even if you have no illness, the body often creates symptoms matching your worries. Grow wise to this mental trick, and it cannot survive for long.
Why does fear stay in place?
Fear stays in place because of your refusal to accept it. By understanding this, realise how your unease toward fearful thoughts keeps them alive. This knowledge moves you toward a state of allowing and accepting fear. As a result, it cannot stay in place and influence the mind any further.
The power and drive of fear come from your efforts to ignore, resist, or get rid of it. If you relaxed such force, thoughts would receive no interest or focus. This detachment allows them to lose their hold in their own time. Witness how fears stem from collections of thinking patterns. You learn these from your environment, surroundings, the media, past experiences, or the influence of others. When you try to rid the mind of its unwanted contents, what happens? They become aggressive as anxiety feeds on more of the same energy. Once you’re aware of this power, relax all efforts to ignore or get rid of fear.
Any form of engaging with fear keeps it intact. For those afraid of illness, they often conduct research to check any symptoms that could cause concern. It’s fine to study information, but is your motive to seek reassurance from fear? Is it possible to be 100% sure of whether you will catch a disease? If you do research to fight the worry of getting ill, your fearful mindset will seek more reasons to be afraid. In addition, perhaps many doctors have confirmed your clean bill of health. Despite this, the mind remains anxious and doubtful. The reason is that it’s still engaging with fear and keeping it relevant.
Given these points, put aside all attempts to seek assurance. Instead, be OK with fear and allow its movement. By doing so, its energy lessens and cannot influence the mind any further.
How do you allow fear, and when do solutions arise?
You allow fear by relaxing efforts to be aware of the mind’s thoughts. At first glance, this appears to negate the earlier stage of growing in awareness. Rather than counter the previous phases, this step builds on your mind’s stability. Here, its imbalances, fears, thoughts, and momentum cannot carry you away. You can then allow their power to reduce.
The energy of fear has great momentum behind it. To illustrate this, take the case of a car driving at high speed. When the driver releases his foot off the accelerator, the car continues to move forward. Such motion happens because the vehicle has drawn energy from past momentum. This example applies to your mind’s fears. To release their energy, become aware and detach your attention from them. In doing so, they continue to run until their energy store ends. For this reason, while moving through the phase of allowing, don’t reason with your fears. Instead, let their past momentum run out.
Once the mind releases its pent up energy, you have the space for aligned reasoning, understandings, insights, and solutions.
With regard to the fear of illness, allow all thoughts of catching or passing it on. By doing this, you’re not engaging or trying to control them. When you allow these fears, it doesn’t mean agreeing with what they say. Neither does it suggest that worries will come true. In short, allowing means you stop suppressing or holding distance from the mind’s voices and images. This stage seems hard, as you can feel afraid to let go. Don’t worry about this. Earlier, you built a firm base of awareness. This ensures that the fear of illness cannot take over while you allow its thoughts. In effect, their power reduces and they leave your space.
When is the right time to apply insights and reasoning?
The ideal time to apply insights and reasoning is after six to eight months of allowing the mind its full freedom. This timescale allows most of its collected energy to release. By knowing this, you remain patient while going through this stage. As this phase ends, your mind aligns with life’s wisdom.
Excess momentum in the mind stops wise understandings from arising. Notice this energy and let it reduce. By doing this, your inner space clears. Now you can examine and explore the mind – without getting caught in its web. This way of being allows you to find permanent solutions to fears, thus dissolving them. In this state, you let the mind bring forth insights. Life also moves you into situations to guide the best course of action. From there, you have the choice of acting upon it or not. This open state of mind has little past momentum and leaves space to decide on wise actions.
Examine the fear of illness once more. Where did you learn this worry? Perhaps it came from information in the news, your environment, or conversations with others. These sources often invoke anxiety in the mind. You may also view yourself as responsible for controlling your health and the wellness of others. By allowing these fears to express themselves, you release your hold on them. Soon they run out of fuel and leave a space behind. Explore this expanse with the following questions.
- Can you control a virus or bacteria?
- What changes can you make that enhance your overall health and wellness?
- Can you control the health and lifespan of others?
- Do you practice good hygiene?
- Are you following public health laws and guidelines?
By asking these questions, you let answers arise. These insights come from life’s wisdom and help align your mind.
Is allowing a technique?
The state of allowing is not a technique or system. Neither does it involve methods to avoid or stop the brain’s noise. Given these points, allowing reflects your true, spacious nature that doesn’t depend on anything. With such knowledge, you stop seeing this approach as a method of relieving fears. In contrast, you view it as a means to feel every emotion, thus letting their effects reduce as the mind balances.
The act of letting go and settling fears takes your input. This pointer means you shouldn’t see allowing as a way of making worries vanish. Instead, view it as a lifestyle to face and accept everything within you. Here, you stay with the mind’s thoughts and their related sensations. It’s easy to mistake this for another technique, as the brain prefers to use these to manage its contents. Relax these efforts and let the mind have its confusion. The body then releases its suppressed energy, thus leading you to conscious control and clarity. Once this stage ends, you re-engage with the mind and settle its fears.
Realise that the brain must have some fear because of its purpose to help you survive. As a result, it’s aware of threats to your life and health. However, in a balanced state, these thoughts cause no harm. Here, the brain’s fears don’t govern your actions.
On balance, allowing lets the body clear its built-up thought energy. It then calms the mind. From here, you allow insights that dissolve fears and troubling images. This outlook is not a system, method, or technique. When you allow a fear, there is a natural process of it resolving. This motion happens when you’re not forcing effort towards it. In short, you embrace the brain’s thoughts, move through its fears, allow solutions, and let the mind balance.